Came here to rant because I don't think my friend deserves to be ranted at when she's only trying to help her friend. At any rate, a friend of mine is at University down in Southern California and a friend of hers was asking for a little fashion advice. This is all fine and dandy, but I have a little bit of an issue with the phrase "teaching a girl to wear proper girl's clothes". What does that even mean? Sounds like something out of the 1800's or 1900's where the old ladies would stuff young girls into fluffy, uncomfortable dresses and corsets to be "proper young ladies". Yes, something out of the time where showing a little ankle skin was a sin against the natural world.
Now I'm just calling up that unsolvable issue of gender and gender roles. What I NEVER could understand was why a girl or a boy couldn't wear certain things or play certain games just because of a few physical differences in the unspeakable areas. Of course there is some practical aspects of clothing or toys designed for one gender or another, but why can't I, as a girl, not wear baggy t-shirts or be good at video games or play with Transformers or like Martial Arts movies? Why is it taboo for a young boy to play with something like dolls? It baffles me. Everyone's a victim to this. I'm still struggling with my video editing and posting, especially when most of them think I'm a guy.
Okay so fashion to make a girl look more "girly" I suppose isn't such a big deal. What REALLY got me was the second nuclear strike of a statement: "She wants to look hot to get her boyfriend back." Here's where the rage and restraint comes in, because when I see this I want to beat some sense into the girl with a giant book called "What the hell are you thinking?"
A) If looks are what your relationship is based on, GOD it's not going to last long.
B) A boyfriend that needs to be won back with sex appeal has to be a selfish, shallow, pig-headed dumbass, so why would you WANT to be back with him? (Seriously I'm thinking of some douchebag with a popped collar and slick, greasy hair...look at me profile...)
C) This woman obviously can't do anything for herself to be that DESPERATE to want to be back with such a person.
Maybe I'm wrong, maybe this was worded poorly on my friend's part, or maybe I'm missing a bit of the story, but judging on what people are generally like, I'm going to guess that this is pretty accurate. GOD WOMAN HAVE A LITTLE DIGNITY. I don't care what kind of issues you have, getting back together with a guy who treats you nothing more than a plaything is not going to help you. Jesus Christ almighty on a mountain with a goat eating a scoop of ice cream during a hail storm.
My friend is doing a good deed and trying to help the girl with what she wants, but really, is this ACTUALLY going to help? It's no wonder our world is so messed up. I'm lucky I don't have to deal with that kind of bull crap often. I have people who accept me for who I am.
When did I turn into such a big feminist?
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While I'm sure you realize this by now, your reaction to this is entirely natural and has nothing to do with feminism. I would straight up bitch slap some of these people. Their priorities are all sorts of cliche teeny bopper fucked up. Life has probably dealt them a hard lesson by now.
ReplyDeleteSome people, like my sister, never learn.